GOOD SPOUSE

He who finds a wife finds a GOOD THING, and obtains favour from the LORD – Proverbs 18:22

A good spouse is one of the best among God’s good gifts. A wife that is found through God’s leading is a “good thing”! God looked at lonely Adam and declared: “it is NOT GOOD that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet” (Gen.2:18). A man who finds a God-given wife has found a treasure, plus a ‘bonus’ called favour, which could be the key to open many doors and to make his mountain to stand strong (Psa.30:7). God ordained the man to find one who deserves the name of wife, but the woman who prayerfully positions herself to be found has likewise obtained favour from the LORD! A good wife is a great blessing to a man, and it is a token of Divine favour; and so is a good husband to a woman.

There are many “good things” inside of the Good Thing called Marriage: “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken” (Eccl.4:9-12). This Good Thing will lead to “good reward” – profit and prosperity – for the couple’s career, business, investment or ministry. It will provide partnership, help, intimacy, care, company, protection, friendship, and fellowship.

Some ladies want to be found so desperately, they indirectly do the seeking and searching. What such sincere seekers need to appreciate is that the “goodness” of the spouse is more in the heart, words, and character, than in the physical appearance or social status: “But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price” (1Pet.3:4).

A good wife is a virtuous, prudent helpmate, “a crown to her husband” (Pro.12:4; 19:14). Not a girlfriend, fling, or bed mate; but the treasure that brings the man favour and pleasure. A good husband is the properly prepared godly man led by God to his wife. Such a man will acknowledge his treasure from afar and know it's worthy of whatever he has to give. A true gem will shine, even in darkness. A man close to God will know when he sees his “good thing” – his gem of inestimable value! Even where there might have been foundational errors, God is more than able to restore and maximize His Goodness!