KEEP LOVE ALIVE (1)

“Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth” – Malachi 2:15b

The Impactful Marriage understands and aligns with the instruction to KEEP LOVE ALIVE: “Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth” (Mal.2:15b). When a husband is accountable to God for the way he loves his wife, and likewise the wife, God will help them cultivate and nourish the union. Three ingredients are vital to keep love alive in a marriage over the years, even when feelings change: showing sacrificial love, practicing persevering love, and extending renewing love. Love is not just about emotions; it is an action that we are called to practice, regardless of feelings.

God designed marriage to be a perfect bond, but sin complicated this relationship. Initially, couples often only see the best in each other, but as time passes, they become aware of their spouse's imperfections. However, Agape love, God's unconditional love, encourages us to love despite the flaws (1Cor.13: 4-7). This reflects how God values us despite our faults and calls us to do the same for our spouses. Jesus taught that we should love each other as He loved us: “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you” (Jh.13: 34). We’re called to sacrificial, persevering, and renewing love.

Sacrificial love is about putting our partner’s needs before our own. This might include sacrificing time, desires, or comfort for the sake of our partner. Though early years may be filled with joy in expressing love, challenges can arise that make it more difficult to consistently display. However, even small sacrifices can lead to a deeper connection and inspire reciprocal love.

Persevering love endures through trying times and remains steadfast, reflecting God's unfailing love and commitment to us (Psalm 136). If partners committed to this enduring love, it could eliminate much of the strife and resentment that can build over time. Instead of focusing on our differences, we would strive to serve each other, creating a harmonious relationship. A commitment to love means honoring vows, creating a healthy atmosphere even when partners change or face difficulties.

Lastly, renewing love is crucial since everyone experiences weariness. Unlike God, who is unwavering, human feelings can fade due to life's pressures. We must actively renew our love instead of passively waiting for feelings to return. We should intentionally reflect on the qualities that initially drew us together, and actively seek God's strength to rekindle the affection and bond that may have dimmed over time (Isa.40: 28-31.  

By cultivating sacrificial, persevering, and renewing love, we can navigate through the changes and challenges of marital life, fostering a deep and lasting bond that reflects God's love for us. This requires effort, commitment, and an intentional focus on strengthening the relationship, to fulfill God's expectations of meaningful and impactful Marriage through changing seasons.